Not a Fan #5: Living Life Undistracted

Living Life Undistracted

1 Corinthians 7:29-35

Now let me say this, dear brothers and sisters: The time that remains is very short, so husbands should not let marriage be their major concern. Happiness or sadness or wealth should not keep anyone from doing God’s work. Those in frequent contact with the things of the world should make good use of them without becoming attached to them, for this world and all it contains will pass away. In everything you do, I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. But a married man can’t do that so well. He has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be more devoted to the Lord in body and in spirit, while the married woman must be concerned about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.

I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.

Men are notorious for being distracted. Most of us could qualify for having ADD — Attention Deficit Disorder. In fact, I heard about a guy who was so distracted over one thing and another that he had to have his wife tell him almost everything. One day his wife came into the room and said, “Here’s the sweater you asked me to find.” He said, “Are we going somewhere, or am I cold?” That would be funny if it wasn’t so close to home. I can’t tell you how many times I have walked into a room and asked myself what I am doing there. I knew that I came there for a reason, but it was beyond me what it was because I became distracted by something else. Just ask my wife…I will stand in in our home stupefied because I forgot what I needed or where I was heading.

It is hard to remain focused isn’t it? Life for many consists of rabbit trails rather than highways. They are always on the move, but not really getting anywhere. The distractions of life dictate their decisions and control their schedules.

HERE’S A SNAP-SHOT OF MY LIFE: I make a lot of plans, but get very little done. The phone rings. I need something at the store. Here’s a classic scenario: I simply want to check my email. In moments, however, I get caught in the web of the internet following a story, looking up something, blogging, reading other people’s blogs, checking the weather, looking to see if the Mountaineers are any closer to a championship, or just catching up on the news…and I never get around to checking the email. The kids need to be dropped off, and then they need picked up. Something needs cleaned or repaired. A stack of books are begging to be read. Even making lists of things that need to be done is a distraction.

The problem is that it all seems important, or at least necessary. Our lives are filled with the urgent, and we have no time for the eternal. We have tended to a million little things and left undone the big things. We have filled the day with things that do not ultimately matter and left undone the things that do matter. We have done what seemed necessary and neglected what was essential. Days turn into months and months into years, and our lives have become trivialized by distractions.

How do we escape this ruthless cycle of distractions which keep us from what life was meant to be? Let me suggest a few things.

move from pragmatism to passion.

Pragmatism is doing something because it gets results or it works.

Passion is the craving of a heart that wants to experience the fullness of life no matter what the cost. Passion is fire in the belly.

move from being fractured to being focused

We are all tempted to be controlled by the tyranny of the urgent.

If you can begin each day in the Word you can see the big picture for the day.

If you begin each day with prayer & meditation you can focus on what’s important. But if you just start the day running you will never stop running.

Drop unimportant things, even if they disappoint some people, so that you can do the important things. Focus on keeping the main thing the main thing. The problem is that the main thing gets crowded out by a lot of things that are not even related to the main thing.

Tim Allen, star of the television sitcom Home Improvement, said in a Reader’s Digest article:

“How much of the day are you awake? You think, ‘I gotta get the dry cleaning, I gotta get going, and this and this.’ All of a sudden it’s dinnertime. And then there is a moment of connection with your spouse or your friends. Then you read and go to bed. Wake up, and it’s the same all over. You’re not awake, you’re not living, you’re not experiencing. We start early medicating ourselves. We start kids early on TV and video games and so on. It’s daunting how many possibilities there are in life for every one of us. But rather than face that I may be a failure or a success. . . people find diversions.”

We need to be focused instead of fractured.

move from wandering to living life on purpose.

Psalm 16:11 You will show me the way of life, granting me the joy of your presence and the pleasures of living with you forever.

There is a purpose for your life and it is important to discover that purpose and not let a thousand little distractions rob you of it. I think of the disciples sleeping in the garden when Jesus needed them to be with him. He had warned them of the importance of prayer. He told them it was the only way they would be delivered in the time of trial and temptation. But they missed their purpose in those moments. They chose sleep over vigilance. It is no wonder that within a few hours Peter betrayed his Lord and the rest of them ran when they could and should have stood.

In her book, A Practical Guide to Prayer, Dorothy Haskins tells about a noted concert violinist who was asked about the secret of her mastery of the instrument. She said,

“There are many things that used to demand my time. When I went to my room after breakfast, I made my bed, straightened the room, dusted, and did whatever seemed necessary. When I finished my work, I turned to my violin practice. That system prevented me from accomplishing what I should on the violin. So I reversed things. I deliberately planned to neglect everything else until my practice period was complete. And that program of planned neglect is the secret to my success.”

I like the idea of planned neglect. She had a purpose, and she put that purpose first and deliberately neglected other things. She was a violinist and she never forgot it. She was a violinist first, and everything else came after that.

What would happen in your life if…(you fill in the blanks)

“There is hardly ever a complete silence in our soul. God is whispering to us well nigh incessantly. Whenever the sounds of the world die out in the soul, or sink low, then we hear these whisperings of God. He is always whispering to us, only we do not always hear because of the noise, hurry, and distraction which life causes as it rushes on.”   – Fredrick William Faber

  • Let me ask you a few questions:
  • What is your main purpose in life?
  • What is your second most important purpose in life?
  • What is your third most important purpose in life?
  • Does the way you are living your life truly reflect those goals?

Three Truths to Take With You…

  • Time is Short – Our Most Precious Commodity is the moment that passes us by.
  • The Eternal MUST OUTWEIGH the Urgent
    • Because time is short
    • Because eternity hangs in the balance
  • Make: PASSION…FOCUS…PURPOSE a priority in your life.

Not a Fan #3: Are We Following the Rules or the Redeemer?

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Theme Verse: Luke 9:23-27

Then He said to them all, “If anyone wants to come with Me, he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow Me.

Review:

  • FOLLOWING IS A CHOICE
  • FOLLOWING IS A COMMITMENT
  • FOLLOWING IS A COURSE

Are We Following Jesus or Following the Rules?

The Pharisees and Scribes would have had Everyone Convinced that they were Completely Committed Followers. The only question is, what are they following?

That’s a good question for us to ask today. “What are you following?”

Matthew 23 – Pulling the Curtain Back on the Faithfully Faulty

The Prognosis: The Faithfully Faulty are often Dedicated and Devoted

  • The Pharisees went through incredibly intense training and study
  • The Sadducees were raised in a family of religious leaders to become leaders.
  • There is no question that these men were devoted and dedicated
  • The problem is that you can be devoted and dedicated, and still be wrong.

Jesus levels a pretty heavy accusation on the Sanhedrin referring to centuries before, when the Jews killed the messengers of God because they didn’t want to hear what God had to say when it went against their personal desires.

2 Chronicles 36.15-16 : But the Lord God of their ancestors sent word against them by the hand of his messengers, sending them time and time again, for He had compassion on His people and on His dwelling place. But they kept ridiculing God’s messengers, despising His words, and scoffing at His prophets, until the Lord’s wrath was so stirred up against His people that there was no remedy.

The Problem: The Faithfully Faulty have a Faulty Focus: Outside Vs. Inside

23.25-26: “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed  and self-indulgence! Blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup,  so the outside of it  may also become clean.

Illustration: You might spend hours cleaning the outside of a toilet, but you are not likely to drink the water in the bowl…right? Why? What if at your favorite restaurant you kept getting bowls that were sparkling on the outside, but the inside didn’t look like it had seen the sink?

  • If Your Focus is on the External, then it is on the Temporal
    • These could be people who are not really saved.
      • They know enough about how to act that they are convincing
      • They know enough about what to say that they sound convincing

Listen, there could be a real danger for some of you here. You can spend time in church with believers, singing the songs and reading the Scriptures, but not really make the decision to be saved…to become a follower of Christ. You know all the stuff and may do all the right stuff, but you are LOST! It’s time for you to stop playing a game at the cross and come to Jesus.

Matthew 7:21-23 (HCSB)
21 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord!’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of My Father in heaven. 22 On that day MANY will say to Me, ‘Lord, Lord, didn’t we (DIDN’T I) prophesy in Your name, didn’t we (DIDN’T I) drive out demons in Your name, and didn’t we (DIDN’T I) do many miracles in Your name?’ 23 Then I will announce to them, ‘I NEVER KNEW YOU! Depart from Me, you lawbreakers!’

    • These may be the Believers who Wear their Christian Masks
      • Don’t watch the wrong stuff…where people can see
      • Don’t drink the wrong stuff…where people can see
      • Don’t eat the wrong stuff…where people can see
      • Don’t listen to the wrong stuff…where people can hear
      • Etc…

Revelation 3.1 – To the angel of the church in Sardis write: “The One who has the seven spirits of God and the seven stars says: I know your works; YOU HAVE A REPUTATION FOR BEING ALIVE, BUT YOU ARE DEAD.

Notice the number of times Jesus uses the word: HYPOCRITE in Matthew 23 = 8x  (vvs. 13, 14, 15, 23, 25, 27, 28, 29)

People tell me that they can’t stand the hypocrites in the church…neither can I. But I’m not at church for the hypocrites, for the people who disappoint, discourage, and mislead…I’m here for the ONE who LOVED me so much that HE GAVE HIS ONE AND ONLY SON for ME, that I could have ETERNAL LIFE through my FAITH in HIM. (John 3.16)

  • If Your Focus is on the Internal, then it is on the Eternal

The Promise: The Faithfully Faulty can Become the Faithful Follower

As With Moving from Fan to Follower…It Requires a Choice

  • The Pharisees…and other Faithfully Faulty
    • Choose Rules over Relationship
    • Choose Law over Love
    • Choose Guilt over Grace
    • Miss what Really Matters

Galatians 2:16 (HCSB)
16 yet we know that no one is justified by the works of the law but by faith in Jesus Christ. And we have believed in Christ Jesus, so that we might be justified by faith in Christ and not by the works of the law, because by the works of the law no human being will be justified.

  • Being a Follower Means…
    • Choosing Relationship that empowers us to follow the Rules
    • Choosing Love, that fulfills the Law
    • Choosing Grace that is the Answer for Guilt

Invitation:

An invitation is given to people who have been selected by a person to attend or participate in an event, celebration. The invitation often comes with an RSVP for those who would choose to attend. Attendance may not be mandatory, but you can’t experience the benefits if you are not there.

  • You are invited to…STOP PLAYING GAMES AT THE CROSS
  • You are invited to…JOIN JESUS ON THE JOURNEY OF LIFE
  • You are invited to…BECOME A FAITHFUL FOLLOWER

Not A Fan #2– “Nick At Night: From Fan to Follower”

Not a Fan Series – Message #2 – LWCC09232012

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Nick at Night: From Fan to Follower

September 23, 2012

Review: In the Last Message…

We Discussed the Children’s Game: Follow the Leader

We Discussed the command: “Go, clean your room.”

We Considered some of Jesus’ COMMANDS

We Looked at the Verse: Luke 9.23

WE EXAMINED THE SERIES THEME VERSE: Luke 9:23-27

Then He said to them all, “If anyone wants to come with Me, he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow Me.

  • FOLLOWING IS A CHOICE
  • FOLLOWING IS A COMMITMENT
  • FOLLOWING IS A COURSE

In this message we consider…the progress of changes in the life and relationship of a Jesus Fan on the way to becoming a Completely Committed Follower of Christ.

–It’s D.T.R. time With Jesus (Define the Relationship)–

Nicodemus: Moving from Being a Fan to being a Follower

John 3: A Fan in Secret – Seeking Jesus at Night

John 3:1-2 (HCSB)
1 There was a man from the Pharisees named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews. 2 This man came to Him at night…

· Notice He Comes At Night – A Secret-Agent Believer

  • WHY DID HE COME AT NIGHT?
    • He’s close, but he doesn’t want to seem too close
    • He might be wondering, what if people see?
    • He might be concerned that following Jesus interferes with his life.
      • One Reason I love the book of John is the encounters people have with Jesus
      • Meeting Jesus changed the lives of those who encounter Him.
      • My own encounters with Jesus leave me and my relationship with Him changed

John 7: A Fan in Transition – Stand Up for Jesus

John 7:50-52 (HCSB)
50 Nicodemus—the one who came to Him previously, being one of them—said to them, 51 “Our law doesn’t judge a man before it hears from him and knows what he’s doing, does it?”
52 “You aren’t from Galilee too, are you?” they replied. “Investigate and you will see that no prophet arises from Galilee.”

  • Standing up for someone takes courage and character
  • It also involves a connection to the person on SOME level
    • Perhaps just a surface level as another human
    • Perhaps on a deeper level as a colleague or neighbor
    • Perhaps even deeper as a friend
    • Perhaps really deep as a family member
  • Nicodemus STANDS UP for Jesus…The DTR is Changing
    • Suddenly the choice to follow Jesus may be interfering in life

John 19: A Follower in Devotion – The Cost

John 19:38-42 (HCSB)
38 After this, Joseph of Arimathea, who was a disciple of Jesus—but secretly because of his fear of the Jews—asked Pilate that he might remove Jesus’ body. Pilate gave him permission, so he came and took His body away.
39 Nicodemus (who had previously come to Him at night) also came, bringing a mixture of about 75 POUNDS OF MYRRH AND ALOES. 40 Then they took Jesus’ body and wrapped it in linen cloths with the aromatic spices, according to the burial custom of the Jews. 41 There was a garden in the place where He was crucified. A new tomb was in the garden; no one had yet been placed in it. 42 They place Jesus there because of the Jewish preparation and since the tomb was nearby.

  • A Fan might be willing to pay some price, but limited
  • A Completely Committed Follower doesn’t measure the cost
    • 75 POUNDS of ointment and spices was a costly investment
    • Consider:
      • Matthew 26:6-7 (HCSB)
        6 While Jesus was in Bethany at the house of Simon, a man who had a serious skin disease, 7 a woman approached Him with an alabaster jar of very expensive fragrant oil. She poured it on His head as He was reclining at the table.
      • John 12:3 (HCSB)
        3 Then Mary took a pound of fragrant oil—pure and expensive nard—anointed Jesus’ feet, and wiped His feet with her hair. So the house was filled with the fragrance of the oil.
    • The tomb was an Expensive Gift
      • Matthew 27.60 tells us this tomb was actually Joseph’s new tomb he had just had dug from the rock.

STANDING UP

Joseph and Nicodemus were secret believers, but after seeing the horrible treatment of Jesus, they decided that it had gone far enough and they were going to stand up, show their loyalty, and take care of Jesus’ body for burial. Today, many treat the Bible and Jesus with similar horrible treatment. Now is the time for believers to step forward. Now is the time to come forward and testify to what God has done for you. Now is the time to join “that courageous and faithful band who are not afraid to stand up and be counted!” — Life Application Bible Commentary

So, Are You Ready to Move from

  • FAN
    • Secret Faith
    • Avoiding Faith
    • Budget Faith

 

  • TO FOLLOWER
    • Shared Faith
    • Confident Faith
    • Costly Faith

Not A Fan–Sermon #1: Follow the Leader

Not a Fan Series – Message #1 – LWCC09162012

September 16, 2012

(REMEMBER OUR WEDNESDAY SMALL GROUP STUDY)

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Discuss the Children’s Game: Follow the Leader

· The expectation is that whatever the leader does, the followers will do as well

· It’s such a simple thing, and children get it and do it and enjoy it.

· However, as adults in church we don’t seem to have the same mind-set

Discuss the command: “Go, clean your room.”

· The AWANA Child returns: “Dad, I am so excited! I have memorized your command to clean my room! Isn’t that so awesome!”

· The Seminary Child returns: “Dad, I have learned to read and say your command in both Greek and Hebrew! Is that cool? Do you wanna hear it?”

· The Church Child returns: “Dad, I have started a small group to study your command to clean the room. We’re going to meet for several weeks so we can fully understand what you are asking in the context in which you are asking.”

QUESTION: Does the room ever get clean? Is the COMMAND ever followed?

Then there is this possible scenario:

· The Cooperative Program Child returns: “Dad, I have given our neighbor , Sam, some money and he’s going to clean my room instead of me.”

So the room is cleaned, but the one to whom the command is given still has not obeyed the giver of the command.

Now Consider Some of Jesus’ Commands:

  • · Jesus commands us: “Be born again.” (John 3.7)
  • · Jesus commands us: “Seek FIRST God and His righteousness” (Matt. 6.33)
  • · Jesus commands us: “Pray always” (Luke 21.36)
  • · Jesus commands us: “Let your light shine before men” (Matt. 5.16)
  • · Jesus commands us: “Worship the Father in spirit and truth” (John 4.23-24)
  • · Jesus commands us: “Love your neighbor” (Matt. 19.17-19)
  • · Jesus command us: “Go, make disciples…” (Matt. 28.19-20)

And are we responding as the child in our illustration? We are doing something, but we are not doing what was commanded. We have all the appearance of obedience without really obeying.

Luke 9:23-27
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Then He said to them all, “If anyone wants to come with Me, he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow Me.

Picking Apart Luke 9.23

· IF – indicates that there is a choice to be made (presupposes a “then” follow-up)

· ANYONE – includes everyone who would make the choice

· WANTS TO – the choice is born from deep desire, not a surface appearance

· FOLLOW/COME – Go where I am going…Do what I am doing…Be like me

· WITH ME – Promise of Jesus’ presence. He is WITH us as we are WITH Him

· HE MUST/LET HIM – No option here. No plan B…These are the conditions

· DENY HIMSELF – The first thing is not the ME THINGS…it’s the HIM things

· TAKE UP HIS CROSS – For each person this will be unique and personal

· DAILY – Every day we make a choice, and each day the choice should be Jesus

· FOLLOW ME – Go where1 I go and do what I do the way that I do it

FOLLOWING IS A CHOICE

· EVERYONE Chooses

o Like in Salvation: Everyone Chooses, but not everyone chooses Christ

o Everyone Chooses, but not everyone chooses to be a committed follower.

· The options

o Choose to be a fan…surface level disciple

o Choose to be a follower…deeply committed disciple

· The Outcome

o Following Christ isn’t a promise of ease and prosperity

o Following Christ is a promise of presence and purpose

FOLLOWING IS A COMMITMENT

· Jesus says that whoever would follow Him “Must…”

o What are some things we are told we must do in life?

o What are the consequences is we don’t do those must-do things?

o Following is a Choice, but IF we choose to follow…then we MUST

FOLLOWING IS A COURSE

· Like Directions from a GPS, we follow where we are lead.

  • Me: “There’s no camp-ground here.”
  • Andie: “I told you we passed it back there.”
  • She was right AGAIN

· Unlike the Directions from a GPS, Jesus is totally trustworthy.

o In My Life this has Meant…

  • Following to Vermont
  • Following back to New York
  • Following to West Virginia (where I really started following)
  • Following to Florida (where I never wanted to go)
  • Following to Alabama (where I never thought I’d go)
  • Following deeper into Florida (where I never knew existed)
  • Following back to Vermont (where I wasn’t sure I would ever return)

Finding the Course Involves Investment

Jeremiah 6:16 (HCSB)
16 This is what the Lord says: STAND by the roadways and LOOK. ASK about the ancient paths: Which is the way to what is good? Then TAKE IT and find rest for yourselves.

  • Time spent in Prayer…ask for directions
  • Time spent in Bible…consult the Atlas
  • Time spent in Worship…look to the hills, that’s where your help is
  • Time spent in Fellowship…talk to the fellow travelers
  • Time spent in Reflection…where you’ve been…where you’re going

Oh, there is an Alternative:

· Jeremiah 6.16 continues: BUT they protested: We won’t!

· The Result of this decision:

o Jeremiah 6.19: Listen, earth! I am about to bring DISASTER on these people, the fruit of their own plotting, for they have paid no attention to My word. They have rejected My instruction

SO, TODAY…

· Make the Choice – become a follower of Christ

· Get Committed – be ready to go the distance with Jesus

· Follow the Course – Jesus has the perfect plan for your life, follow Him

to be continued…

(Next Sunday: “Nick at Night: Moving From Fan to Follower”)

The Teacher’s Note Book: Article Review–Sticky Notes and Highlighters for Students with ADHD

Increasing Academic Success for Children with ADHD Using Sticky Notes and Highlighters

As the Melissa Stormont (2008) opens her article, “Children with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) represent about 3% – 5% of the school age population and are most often educated in the general education classroom” (p. 305). While those number may seem to represent a relatively small portion of the school population, educators in the field know that this relatively small population of students can have a significant impact on the educational experience of the greater population. Stormont’s article shares some effective methods of accommodating students with ADHD and helping them cope with the disorder by developing strategies of learning that meet their needs.

The author focuses on two readily available and inexpensive resources. Sticky notes, most are familiar with those adhesive backed little squares that show up all over the classroom by the time June rolls around. Utilizing these tools the author shares 20 strategies that help to address the four characteristics of children with ADHD, which are; selective attention problems, sustained attention problems, impulsivity; and high levels of verbal and motor activity. The benefits of using these simple tools and strategies include, availability of the resource, low cost of the tools, and the portability of the tools making this a resource that can go home with the student.

If a reader of this article has experience with ADHD with either themselves or a close family member then some, perhaps many, of the strategies Stormont expounds upon will resonate. Utilizing the sticky notes to create sequences of activities to complete assignments systematically, covering all or part of the spelling words to practice spelling, or math problems to follow systematic solution practices can help keep the student focused. Using highlighters of varied colors to represent different priorities in assignments and what to attend to in order, noting completed tasks on a list, marking sections of a story read, and highlighting misspelled letters in words will help the student attend to the tasks and recognize both mistakes and progress made.

This article was practical, interesting, and beneficial. Providing teachers with these simple, inexpensive, and effective strategies that may aid in the education of students with ADHD adds to the pre-service teacher’s toolbox. In addition, while the primary focus is the benefit derived by students with ADHD, these ideas might also prove helpful to students and teachers who need help organizing thoughts, tasks, and practicing systematic learning. As this student/teacher has discovered in his experience, any tools that help organize one’s thoughts and design logical steps to learning are an asset.

Marriage 911: What is Love (Part 2)

We continue looking at love in an effort to define and understand what real love is, and how this impacts our marriages.  Something needs to happen to stem the tide of destruction and restore stability in marriages that are in jeopardy.  Understanding love is just a part of the emergency care Marriage 911 will help provide.

 

Love is:

  • Unconditional
  • Unconventional
  • Uncondemning
  • Uncomfortable
  • Uncompromising
  • Uncondescending

Love—real love—never fails!

Marriage 911–Real Love (Part 1)

Half of marriages fail.  I believe this is due to misunderstandings when it comes to what love is.  This webisode of Marriage 911 introduces the subject of real love.  This is part one of several.

4 Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails;

                      (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a New American Standard Bible 1977)

Video of Dave Bentley presenting Marriage 911–Real Love Part 1

Marriage 9-1-1: Kindness

Marriage 9-1-1

Someone needs to call 9-1-1 because there are marriages that need some serious help. Perhaps you are in one of those marriages, or you know someone who is. This might not be for you specifically right now, but it might be useful later, or you can pass it along to someone who might benefit from it.

Where’s the Kindness?

It’s astounding the number of couples I’ve encountered recently who just don’t treat each other very kindly. (At times that includes the man I see in the mirror.)

The wisdom of the Bible offers some guidance in our relationships with others that we would be wise to apply:

And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ.

Eph 4:32 (HCSB)

· Be Kind in Words and Actions

· Be Kind by being moved and responding

· Be Kind by forgiving

Take this Home With You Before You Start a Fight:

A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath. Prov 15:1 (HCSB)

Special Education and the Christian Mandate

The following is from a discussion board post I was assigned this week in my class, Foundations of Exceptionalities at Liberty University. 

The Difference Between a Christian and Secular Approach toward Students with Exceptionalities

In reading and pondering this topic it becomes clear that the only real difference between the secular approach to special education and the Christian approach is the source of the mandate requiring action.  The secular (public) school systems are driven by federal laws, such as the Individuals with Disabilities Act (IDEA), which mandates Free and Appropriate Education (FAPE) for all students (Weintraub, 2005).  These laws and regulations, the oldest of which are just reaching the half century mark, have continued to evolve and develop over the course of years, adjusting to fiscal constraints and rising demand for services.  Public school districts must follow these mandates and laws or face punitive measures.

The mandate for the Christian, and the Christian school, is different, but no less demanding.  In fact, as believers, we are commanded to uphold the laws that govern our communities in addition to following the mandates of the Lord Jesus.  As a result, we ought not to see this as an opportunity to lessen our responsibility, but rather a challenge to be a model that raises what we offer to a position of excellence.  The mandate we must follow is found in both the words, and the actions of our primary example, Jesus Christ.  In the Scriptures we find the purpose for which He came and we remain.

Jesus’ Purpose Declared by the Prophet:

o The scroll of the prophet Isaiah was given to Him, and unrolling the scroll, He found the place where it was written:18 The Spirit of the Lord is on Me, because He has anointed Me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent Me to proclaim freedom to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set free the oppressed,19 to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor (Luke 4:17-19 Holman Christian Standard Bible). 

Our Purpose Defined by the Savior:

o And Jesus came up and spoke to them, saying, “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. 19 “Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, 20 teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age (Matthew 28.18-20 New American Standard Bible 1977).

Jesus, as He lived out His example before the eyes of His followers, never shied away from the challenge that people with special needs brought to Him.  Blind, deaf, crippled, diseased, they all found in Christ a refuge and a hope.  As His followers, our mandate is to offer those same things to the people with special needs today.

 

Weintraub, F. (2005). The evolution of ld policy and future challenges. Learning Disability

     Quarterly, 28(2), 97-99

Educational Research Literature Review

The following was submitted as part of my coursework this past Summer.  I thought it might be helpful to teachers preparing to head back into the class room.

A Literature Review: Intentional Educational Practice and Connection between Class and Home

David Bentley

Liberty University

Lynchburg, VA

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Abstract

Parental involvement has long been recognized as a marker for scholastic success. If a parent or guardian is able to be a partner with the teacher in the educational experience of a student, then that child has a greater probability of achieving academically. Research has confirmed this causal relationship; however, teachers and schools have struggled to find effective methods of enlisting parents, and engaging them in the sort of home-based involvement that can lead to meaningful results. In addition, many teacher leave their formal education saturated with content knowledge, but possessing limited skills in connecting with parents and developing effective collaborative relationships with families in the educational process. The question arises; can teachers be effective in intentional educational practice if they fail to build bridges with the parents of our students? In addition, are there effective ways of developing meaningful communication and collaborative relationships between the classroom and the home? This literature review explores related journal articles, qualitative and quantitative research, and class textbooks in search of answers to these questions, as well as methods that can be employed effectively in the classroom.

Keywords: Teacher Parent Interaction, Involvement, Home Visits, Intentional Strategies, Communication, Newsletters,

Intentional Educational Practice and Connection between Class and Home

How many times have parents experienced this scene: A student arrives home and announces that the following day there is a class project that needs to be completed that night? If those parents are fortunate enough to have the supplies on hand, the next several hours are spent putting together a scale model of a volcano…a steam locomotive…a model of the solar system. Most times, however, parents are sent scrambling to the department store in hopes of locating the needed supplies, seizing them before other desperate parents who are under the same deadline. The teacher sent a note home explaining the project in plenty of time, but it remains hidden in the bottom of the child’s backpack, unfound until the family camping trip in mid-July.

Teachers have more communication tools at their disposal than at any other time in history. The world today is saturated with modes of communication. In moments, an educator can utilize a variety of mediums to get a message across such as, electronic communication, vocal communication, written communication, video communication, and face-to-face communication. The universal problem is that educators have all of these means of getting the message across, but often those messages are not communicated in a bidirectional way between the class and the home. The result is that the rich resource of parental involvement is often nonexistent in the classroom, and parents experience a growing disconnect from the school environment.

This communication disconnect is happening in spite of the current moves in educational reform which include and emphasis on family participation as part of a strategy for school improvement. In fact, federal and professional mandates call for increased family involvement in education (Bartles & Eskow, 2010). The importance of the home-school relationship is understood as it relates to cooperation between teachers and parents (Joshi, Eberly, & Konzal, 2005) in the education of the children. The need for a good relationship and open communication is evident and backed by a multitude of research (Joshi, et al. 2005). It is in the best interest of the students that bridges of communication and collaboration are built between the class and the home.

This literature review examines available articles and research related to, home-school communication and cooperation, difficulties that produce barriers to effective partnerships with families, and methods of overcoming those barriers through training and engaging educators in meaningful collaborative relationships. Quantitative and qualitative research studies, recorded experiences of teachers and parents, and textbooks from the field of education will be referenced. These sources will be synthesized to provide an understanding of intentionality in education, and the significance of the home-school relationship as it relates to the educational practice of intentional teaching.

Defining Intentional Educational Practice

Intentional educational practice is defined by one researcher as, ”educational practice based on knowledge and purpose with the goal of helping students acquire the skills they need in school and beyond.” (Epstein, 2007, p. 1) The syntax of the concept of the intentional teacher identifies this as teaching for a purpose and basing the curriculum on the desired outcomes (Slavin, 2012). A quick perusal of the thesaurus will generate a wide range of synonyms for the word intentional; all could be included to amplify one’s understanding of this term. Words such as; calculated, designed, prearranged, premeditated and willful help further clarify what it means to engage in the practice of intentional teaching. Because intentional educational practice teaches with a purpose and goal in mind, it answers the question “why” for the teaching plan (Epstein, 2007) and serves to keep the teacher on track. In essence, intentional educational practice is setting out on a journey with a destination in mind and the turn-by-turn directions enabling the travelers to arrive at the chosen location.

The Importance of Communication between Class and Home

In a normal school day, there are a multitude of messages being shared and lessons being learned in the classroom. However, ask the average middle school student walking through the front door of the home what they learned in school and the response is, “nothing.” Clearly, this is not the case, but if that exchange is the only interaction the parents have with the educational process it will lead to a major disconnect between their understanding of what takes place in the school, and the reality of the student’s experience. Communication between teachers and families allows parent to be knowledgeable (Schulz & Kantor, 2005) about what the “nothing” really represents in the classroom. The results of a study done by Charlotte Akin (2004) found that even in schools that had good programing, well trained faculty, and parental involvement, focusing on communication enhanced the overall experience of both staff and families.

Effective communication from the class to the home is about more than just what happens in the class. In one study, concerning chronic absenteeism (Sheldon & Epstein, 2004) it was discovered that frequent and positive communication with parents about attendance lead to a reduction in absenteeism. Frequently, however, communication from the class to the home occurs in relation to behavior, poor grades, or attendance (Flanigan, 2007), making positivity in the message difficult.

Communication between the Class and Home Must be Bidirectional

Teaching is primarily about knowledge. The philosophy of most educators would express that the more that is known about a particular subject the better off the student will be. With that thought, the educator would do well to become a student when it comes to the pupils in the classroom and the families represented there. As one educational research project related, in order truly be intentional a teacher should not only understand where students are developmentally, but also have a grasp of the background of the students. Understanding how the students’ socio-economic experiences impact learning (Mogharreban, McIntyre, & Raisor, 2009) will enable to teacher to teach with the whole child in view and accommodate for individual differences in the students. As one research subject stated, “Just knowing children’s development helps you to realize that not everybody’s on the same page. Everybody needs accommodation.” (Mogharreban, et al. 2009 p. 237)

Joshi, Eberly, and Konzal (2005) state that since “it is acknowledged that both parents and teachers are responsible for educating our children, it would seem that it would be in the child’s best interest for us all to be working toward the same goals (p. 1).” The only way to get both parents and teachers working on the same goals is through mutual communication. In developing intentionality in educational practice, it is important to develop and build on a complete knowledge of the students (Mogharreban, McIntyre, & Raisor, 2009) which would include the family background. As one research participant shared, “I know some of these kids’ stories, and they have other issues going on at home. I’m not going to be the mean old teacher who says, ‘you didn’t get your homework done,’ when I don’t know what they heard last night or if they got much sleep…(Mogharreban et al. 2009, p. 237)”

Barriers to Two-Way Communication

Researchers tell us that two-way communication is essential for building mutual trust (Joshi, Eberly, & Knozal, 2005), yet one of the lessons from the research is that what people view as communication is often a unidirectional transfer of information. Parents, who know their child best, have a valuable perspective (Forney, 2009) that can help the teacher who will take time to not only send messages, but receive them as well. This is true of every child, but especially true if the child happens to have special needs or disabilities (Forney, 2009). Such two-way communication on a daily basis is mandated by those special circumstances.

The Problem of Negative Attitudes and Professional Demands

Among the things that result in barriers to effective communication, according to the research results, are; negative attitudes about parents, bias against parents, feelings of inadequacy when dealing with parents, teacher’s historical perspective and experience based on their own childhood (Flanigan, 2007) in addition to time constraints and professional demands. It becomes obvious that these negative feelings coupled with the professional burdens of teaching can effectively derail meaningful communication. Interestingly, among the remedies for those negative feelings towards parents is increased communication and relation with parents. Often, the more a teacher becomes acquainted with parents of students the less powerful those prejudices seem (Eberly, Joshi, & Konzal, 2007). As one article stated, “regardless of educational background, homes of poor families are rich with funds of knowledge which are often unrecognized and untapped by the educational community. When educators recognize the resources or funds of knowledge of all families, communication and trust is improved. (Schulz & Kantor, 2005 p. 63).”

Our Current Methods are Generally Unidirectional Communication

Findings indicate that there is a misunderstanding of the relationship between parental involvement and real communication and relational building. When asked about the most effective means of communication involving parents and teachers, teachers responded that written communication and conferences were most effective. However, do the events that are commonly associated with communication actually result in a meaningful and beneficial interchange? “Are teachers and parents getting to know each other better during these activities (Joshi, et al, 2005 p. 14)?” For example, the common parent-teacher conference has all of the indications of promising communication. There is the potential for a face-to-face exchange of information taking place in a quiet environment over a period of time specifically designated for this purpose. However, most of these meetings dissolve into the teacher transferring copious amounts of information to the parents with little or no opportunity for feedback. If, however, teachers use these meetings to conduct open-ended interviews and allow the parents to tell their relevant stories (Schulz & Kantor, 2005)

Other methods of communication are equally uncommunicative when honestly examined. One research participant listed a number of methods she uses to communicate with parents (Shulz & Kantor, 2005) but when explored giving attention to opportunity for feedback, most of these were found to be unidirectional transfer of information rather than an interchange resulting in communication. If educators are going to be successful in joining intentionality in practice with relevant information about their students (Mogharreban, McIntyre, & Raisor, 2009), then greater attention must be given to developing effective bidirectional communication practices.

Developing Bidirectional Communication Practices

There is nothing inherently wrong with how teachers communicate. What the research indicates is that a focus on bidirectional communication needs to be added to the current list of methods being employed. The practice of sending home notes, utilizing the “Friday folder,” and comments on report cards and other “send home communications” should simply be supplemented with additional open means of communication. There is great promise among some of these other methods of connecting with parents (Schulz & Kantor, 2005).

The intentional teacher will make efforts to reach out to parents with the goal of learning from them (Eberly, Joshi, Konzal, 2007) and in the hopes of enlisting them and engaging them as partners in the educational enterprise (Sheldon & Epstein, 2004). As teachers work to build these bridges with families through open communication studies indicate there will be measurable increase in the trust, respect, expectations, and meaningful exchange of relevant information as it relates to the students (Eberly, Joshi, & Konzal, 2007).

Is Our Message Getting Through?

In every aspect of life, people face challenges when it comes to communication. Marriages have dissolved over an inability to communicate. Businesses have struggled into bankruptcy because they were unable to articulate their message. Politicians have discovered too late that the message they thought they were delivering to the populace was not actually getting across to them. Teacher, with all good intentions, send out notes to the home that, like the experience in the opening vignette, lie undisturbed and undiscovered in the bottom of a student’s backpack. The question must be asked and answered, “Is the message getting through?”

Eberly, Joshi, and Konzal (2007) explain, in their theoretical framework, that Children are raised with an overlapping set of systems with regard to family and schools. These two elements form a microsystem for the life of the student. I am reminded of the game Jenga in which players take turns removing blocks from a tower until one player or the other remove the block that causes the tower to crumble. This overlapping and interconnected system in the child’s life requires that the parents and educators share responsibility to serve as partners to avoid imbalance and disunity in these microsystems. The authors (Eberly, et al 2007) continue, no one knows everything, therefore everyone needs to work together to help children succeed academically. Everyone has value when it comes to this process.

In recent years, there have been additions to schools of education curricula and professional development programs aimed at helping teachers learn skills and practices of engaging parents as partners. Promising results have come from extended membership in professional networks (Sanders, Sheldon, & Epstein, 2005) in developing effective partnership practices. As the study related to chronic absenteeism (Sheldon & Epstein, 2004) illustrates, the benefits of gaining parents as allies in the enterprise of education are too great to take for granted.

The research points to the benefits of developing effective and meaningful communication in the area of intentionality in educational practice. The educators who were participants in the research come from a variety of backgrounds and experiences, but all became more aware of the need for bidirectional connections with the home. The investment of time and energy in the process is great, especially for teachers already burdened with the demands of the educational system. It is understandable that, as in other areas of life, it might be easy to neglect the area of communication to focus time and energy elsewhere.

There are questions and problems that need to be answered. How can a teacher find time to make a home visit to build bridges with parents? Where can an educator squeeze in time to write and respond to parent emails with a pile of papers to grade? What are the most effective proven means of communication between the class and the home?

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